Why does my ex-wife have to be so nasty?

I have been an electronic eng. for 20+ years. With almost all the manufacturing jobs going to China the number of jobs for EEs got smaller and smaller. I asked my wife(at the time) to go out and get a job. She had gotten use to living on my high salary and staying at home with the kids. Instead she borrowed money money from her well to do Uncle at a rate to match my old salary.
Parents and spouses are suppose to make sacrifices for the good of the family not to be selfish. I know that I always made plenty. Then came the better than you attitude from a person who wouldn't support her family.
I had enough and left. I found a job that pays half of what I use to make. I have asked her a number of times to curb her spending when it comes to the kids as I have to pay her 1/2 of all extra curricular activity and sports costs. Since she gets her Uncle to pay for everything she doesn't care and spends money faster than I can make it.
So my question to you women is why are you so vindictive

I have to agree with the ladies here. You can't stereotype all the ladies based on your bad experience.

You left. So regardless of her faults, you quit.

Actually, she did support her family, just not in a fashion you wanted.

If she is spending more than you can afford, go back to court and get your parenting plan changed. Set a cap on those expenses, or have it written that you pay 1/2 of those things that you mutually agree upon.

My ex-wife is free to sign our little girl up for anything. But I am free to not pay 1/2 if it was not mutually agreed upon.

Man up! Stop blaming her and everything for your situation and take action to make it better.

Put each kid on an activities budget. Tell them that they have $X/year to spend from you, and once they've exhausted those funds, they have to fund it themselves.

Set boundaries, don't remain a victim forever.

As soon as you find out let me know. My ex went from friendly to deadly in a week
not all women are like that...and BTW...YOU left, so if you couldn't get a lawyer to act on your behalf and get you something you can live with, then it's YOUR fault. Don't be blaming all women for what YOU Have done...(besides the fact you married her in the first place, and should have known the TYPE of person she was...if you didn't, then don't whine now...it's a little late...)
Not all women are with a man for what he brings home in a paycheck. I am sorry she is like that. You can always go back to court to lower the extracurricular activities fee. But hopefully, your children will learn from you about the value of a $ and not expect life to hand them all they ask for w/o some effort put ino it.
See what one bad woman does for us women! It's not all women and not me! I make almost the same amount as my husband we each put just about the same amount of money in the bank account and what ever is left after that is our own spending money no questions asked. I usually have to spent some of mine on food , but that is fine with me! We have to eat, whether he or Myself pays for it!..............
You are right though she should have just gotten herself a job!
First off sugar, not all women are that way so please do not group us all together. I think your ex wife was completely out of line when she refused to get a job when you told her it was best for the family for her to do so. She married you for better and for worse but when it came down to it she only wanted the better. She is proving her selfish ways as now she is living off her uncle but not making any sacrafices in her life. Unfortunately you chose a bad woman for a wife. Not all women are like her. I doubt she will ever change her ways. If the uncle quits supplying her with money she will find someone else or take you back to court for more money (so be ware). You only have to deal with her until your son finishes college and then you can be done with her once and for all.

Good luck!
You are blaming ALL women for what ONE woman did. You married a woman who didn't want to work outside the home and you permitted that. You left her. You had a bad divorce and your ex isn't a nice person. She is vindictive. Do NOT assume all women do that. You would be wrong.