After 4 yrs my hus n me r together.then he goes abroad.should i join him resigning my reputed high paid job?

I tried to get leave but in vain.

WHats more important to you, your job or your husband? But consider the facts, did he have to go abroad or did he choose to? and if he chose was it for your benifit?

Husbands seem to be a dime a dozen around Yahoo Answers and most of them aren't worth the clothes on their back. High paying jobs are hard to come by. And there is always someone at the water cooler looking to pounce on a abandoned wife. You could always have a Mr. Right Now until Mr. Right returns to the country.

You never said his reasons for going abroad. It really would depend on a lot of things. If his reason for going was a job then I would have to say it would depend on how much he made and where he went. I would also say that if it was a job is a permanant one for him or just a temporary one. I would want to be sure that I did not give up my job for something that was not a sure thing. I also would care about where he was. When you said abroad this could mean many places. Some places I would not want to be.
I also find this a little strange since I would have thought that you both would have discussed this before he left. What did he want you to do? I wonder if you really know what you really want to do and just want someone else to say it for you so you can feel better about it. If I had a high paying job then it would be difficult for me to leave it. Is his job paying really well? I would have to be very secure in my decision before giving up my job.
Distance is also not a good thing between two people that love each other. Before I could truly answer my opinion then I would have to know why he left in more detail.
If it was a job he left for then I would have to know for sure that it was a very secure job and the place where he was is a place that I would want to spend my life.

Please tell me you don't have this high paying job as a result of your intelligence.

Its obvious this so called high paying job is more important to you than your marriage. Divorce and let him find someone who will appreciate him.

if his stay abroad is only temporary than go visit if you need too. but other than that you and him need to eat and bills need to be paid. so you need to stay put and see how things go. dont leave your job just yet. if you do decide to go you need to come up with a plan like saving money from this high paying job of yours so that you can live once you get abroad. stop making life decision on a whim think things through. you need to think about the pro and cons of you moving over there. use you noddle and not your heart. heart cant pay bills. GodBless

You have a high paying job?!?!?! Hard to believe with the way you write!! But maybe it involves high heels, black stockings, late nights? Your answer lies in how much you love your husband and how much you want to stay married. If you have real skills, you will always find work. But - you can't always find a good man!

If you are in a high paying job, then it would certainly be a job with responsibility. If you have tried to get leave, but they wont allow it, then maybe you are more valuable to them than you think. Maybe tell them you are taking leave and you would appreciate it if they could hold your job for you. If they value you, they will keep the position open. To have a high paying job you would have to have really good skills. If you can get a high paying job here, why couldnt you get one abroad. Skills are transferable you know. This is not the only job that will be able to utilize your skills well. There are other high paying jobs all around the world. If you have good skills then it will be easy to find a similar job somewhere else. I say, go with him. You shouldnt have any problems finding a good paying job elsewhere.

I agree with "The Mrs."! This is really a no-brainer. If you were any kind of a wife, you'd go with him. The job you have now isn't the only "high-paying" job in the world. Go -- show him he matters to you!

stay in your job, your husband will return from abroad but your job wont. it also looks like your relationship is not really solid for you to risk losing both.

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Thats tricky my dear ambika. If he has gone temporary, then you should not resign and visit him for vacations.

If he has gone there permanently, then you need to join him. He is your soul and shadow.

Don't do it because after you have seen everything and get use to living there you will start resenting your husband. Another thing that makes it hard is being away from your entire family that's when you will start to get home sick and realize you just can't get in your car and go see them when ever you want. Everything will be different from the food the people the everyday way of life. Remember once your gone your gone you can't come back to your high paying job. You better make sure you love your husband that much to give up everything you are accustom to. If i had to do it all over again i would not go i would visit my husband and he would visit me. I hate where i am and i only moved from a different state but still it is a plane ride away from my home. Once your there with him awhile and the little fights start and you are left there alone day in and day out it gets really lonely so think long and hard about this and remember the excitement of seeing him for the first time after so long doesn't last long then you will be on your own like all wives are.

Dear:
Better to get permission from boss, or apply for vacation spend with him dont leave the job. Your question is showing that you are not much interested in the job. ( if you not interested in the job you can leave. But if you have chalenging power to find any other job better than this you can leave other wise no need leave the job.)
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nah girl he obviously tryin to get away from u for a while, he dont want u taggin along to c0ckblock him