I got a job offer n i wanna do it but ma bf who isn't livin here but abroad isn't allowing me,what to do?

i really wanna do this job but he's so restricting ,he doesn't want me 2 do this... i ve tried convincing him but he fights with me... plz help... what should i do?

thnk u all for ur support and response ... and yeah its a normal office job.

Your boyfriend obviously doesn't understand that you have goals too, you have dreams you want to accomplish. I guess it would all depend on your relationship status right now, if you've come to the point of being engaged. It would explain why your boyfriend's acting like this, he wants to settle down with you. But if this is just how he is, you have to set him straight, make him respect you or else he'll never do it by himself. Best of wishes
-Kar

well at this point you might want to take a break and try the job

What!!!! Do whatever you want..he's not here anyways. Even if he were here, you should still do whatever you want!

Sweetie, your job is none of his business. Tell him this is your life and then go and live it the way YOU want to live it. The fact that he's trying to control you when he's not even around is kind of worrisome. Maybe you need to take a serious look at your relationship.

this man sounds very controlling. i suggest you take the job and get yourself a new man.

i say you tell your b.f to screw off. its ur life. he cant control you. you can alway find a new bf. dont rearrange your life around just for him. he seems like a jerk anyways if hes not approving of something that would make you happy. take the job!

this is your ma's boyfriend ?

whoever he is, he doesnt live in the same country as you ?

grow up, tell him to take a hike .

What is the job? Hooker, porn actress, stripper...?
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listen to your bf, men know best.

Forget him. Ya'll ain't married and he's not your husband. He doesn't controll you. Take the job and if he doesn't like it, then dump him.

you need to do what's best for you. If your heart tells you to take the job, do it! He has no right to tell you what or what not to do. Especially as a bf and not a husband!

Why would your boyfriend try to hold you back from something you really want to do? I say drop him...why would he want to make you unhappy? Go after what you want!!

And furthermore, you're a grown woman...you don't need PERMISSION from anyone!!

He is your boyfriend...not husband... do what you want!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! don't be foolish!

dont tell him . you need to earn your own money .

dont let him keep you from doing what you want , life is too short and if he ask what your doing then just make him feel guilty by saying things like oh im just sitting around doing nothing . or say that your always going out with friends.

remeber your in charge of your life no one else is but you.

Well...
What's the job?
If it's something like stripping then I'd see why he doesn't want you to.
But if it's something normal, then I don't know what his problem is.
I'd just forget him and get the job.

key word is *isnt allowing me* hes controlling you from abroad if the job is stripping i can understand why he doesnt want u to do it but a regular job? do what you want to do not what he wants u to do take the job and get a new bf

if he wants to control you, i suggest that you leave him, you wont be happy, find another guy.

You have to do what your calling is. If you end up not working a job you like because of him, then IF you break up down the road, you will have no experiene in anyting and have no way to make money. If you are not self sufficent, then you will feel traped for the rest of your life, dependant upon someone else.

I wonder what the job is? The only justification your BF could have is if the job is as a stripper, shot girl, escort, or crack dealer...... everyting else, your good.

Take the job and dump the boyfriend.

He's your boyfriend not your father. Is he going to support you? Go ahead and work! It is your right and privilege. He should be proud you want to help out and do something for yourself!

Boyfriends come and go. If the job will better you for your future, then go for it.

that is sign of controlling you and he shouldnt make you not do something you really want to do
girl get yourself a new man j/k but do it, noone should stop you from what you really want

I'm sorry, I don't understand.. What do you mean he isn't "allowing" you? He doesn't own you... How can he be restricting, when he lives abroad? You don't have to convince him of a thing. If he cannot be supportive, then you need to let him go. Take the job if it is something that you want, and get another boyfriend. This isn't 1920. Don't let a man, especially one who lives OVERSEAS dictate what you can and cannot do. That isn't a real man.

depends what kinda job it is...like a strippper no but like an office job take it...if there isn't a ring on your finger he can't tell you what to do and even then your your own person!
and if he isn't living here how is he gonna know right away?

Don't let your boyfriend control your life or your decisions. It is YOUR life. If you truely want the job you should take it. If he doesn't support your decisions then he isn't a very good boyfriend. However, never base your decisions on a man or let a man decide for you, because how do you know you'll even be with him forever? So, if you don't take the job and you end up breaking up with him, you'll be left with regrets and with no man as well as no job. You need to do whats best for YOU.

Boyfriend? You know it is one thing for your husband to tell you that he doesn't want you to do something because your decisions you make effect one another, but when your boyfriend tells you that, what kind of life are you going to have with him being so controlling? He really has no right to tell you that you cannot. There is only one person who is responsible for making decisions and taking care of you, and that person is you. Usually guys who are like this have the "tiny penis syndrome."

And just how does your "boyfriend" have any such authority over your actions. I can't even see how a husband living in the same house with you would have such authority. Girl, you need to escape that jerk as quickly as possible.

He's a control freak. Dump him now so that you can have a life! Good luck with the new job! ;-)=

Ok, first of all, why are you letting a guy control your every move? Especially one that doesn't live anywhere close to you? If getting a job is something you want to do that's your decision and no one else's. A boyfriend should be supportive and understanding, not restricting and controlling. My advice to you is to dump this loser and live. That's all I should have to say.

If he is just your boy friend at this time, he sounds very controlling. If you want to take the job, take it. If he does not like it now how is he going to be, on down the road about other issues?

If he's living abroad and you're living here then I say go for the job. This is your career you're talking about. He's not your husband or anything so he shouldn't have a say in what you do or don't do w/ YOUR career. I say go for the job if that's what will make you happiest! Tell him to back off, if he doesn't like it then he's not a very good bf... You bf/husband should support your job decisions not make you feel bad about them!