My Exwife wants to come back?

I had a good life with my wife and son , I got a job abroad and left my family in my home country . After sometime I requested my wife to join me but she refused and she said that she can't leave her job and she asked for divorce. I went to see her and fortunately I got to know that she has a ( relationship ) with one of her colleagues --married and has kids --and he promised her for marriage . I immediately process our divorce without telling her that I came to know the truth. She spoiled my image in front of her family to justify the divorce and of course her colleague ran away after our divorce.
Now she wants to come back to me , shall I tell her about what I know about her ???

I would tell her what you know. And I would tell her that reestablishing a relationship with her is not going to happen.

Don't take her back. She wanted to make you look like a fool. Talk to her about it.

without truth nothing works....

Do not go back...stay the course you are on. Your shame will haunt you all your days.

NO>>>>>>> She made her bed now she shall lay in it.....She cheated on you....Once a cheater always a cheater......And now that boy toy left she will settel for you....Wake up smell the coffee

oh yeah!! she's looking for a soft place to land...he probably left her....TELL HER what you know....it will be good closure for you....cleansing

Absolutely, you need open communication

no i dont think you should tell her unless you are totally sure about it, but if you are then tell her how you feel about it! good lucK!

I think she wants you back because you are Plan B.

However, you did just bail on them...I mean did you expect her to just pick up and leave when you were ready for her?

You do have a child, so that must be considered.

Sounds like you both are a tad on the selfish side.....

No, not worth it. If she did this, what makes you think she would not do it again? I don't think the trust would be the same again. It may be in the back of your head worrying about the possibility of this happening again. Not healthy in my book!

I would tell her what you know and if you want to take her back well that is your decision sweetie good luck and I am sorry she hurt you like that

No! don't tell her but also don't take her back! if ya'll get back together it will always be in the back of your head that she might just do it again. you guys are on a good talking basis and keep it that way you don't need any more stress that could even cause you to lose your job!!

Yes, you do need to confornt her. It may be that the affair has stopped and she doesnt have any other options and think you do not know what has happened. As far as taking her back, that is a tough one. It doesn't seem she really cares for you after putting you down in front of your family. Unless you have feeling for her and you think you can trust her, I think it is time to move on to a new life.

The Bible says you cannot divorce unless 1. Your spouse is an unbeliever and they leave or 2. Adultery
She definitely falls into this category.
She also has shown she needs some kind of constant male companionship, and it's not going to be you but whomever is available. When you left, she went to another guy, then when he left she tries to come back to you. She needs to be by herself and look herself in the mirror for a couple of years. (You can tell her I said that)
Tell her NO, and tell her why. She has problems and you don't need to be brought into her mess.

You should!and don't get her back anymore,find someone deserves you more.....she's not worth your love.....she messed it up...she will learn her lesson in the future...(unless,you still have feelings for her )...

I feel that you should not take her back. It was obvious that you took a job abroad to support your family. She cheated, lied and a myriad of other choices that were not moral according to you.

Taking her back will not fix anything. In fact, it will not be good for you. You will forever not trust her, even though you may forgive her. This will cause you worry during the marriage that you may not get over.

If you choose to take her back, please have her earn your trust back.

Of course honestly is always the best policy. How accurate is the information you received about your ex, was this a responsible source? If you can have an honest conversation with you ex, she may be able to answer a lot of unanswered questions. How did she spoil your image in front of her family? Do you really want her back? Can you really forgive her? Would you consider counseling? Good Luck!

ABSOLUTELY!!!! tell her what you learned. Tell her how you feel and how you felt when she spoiled your image in front of her family to justify the divorce. Why keep it from her? I would request she tell the family the truth of the cause of your divorce. Then it's up to you if in time you want to take her back. It won't be easy, you know that. but it's possible that it could still work out if you really want it to.

Once an Ex,,, ALWAY an EX....

is up you to dis id ,if she still interesting on you,and you fill the same then tack her back,but again i will thing very hart before i decide to do this,she will be not trust it in future

Don't be foolish and even consider taking her back, she will only do it again.

All these people answering you probably don't have kids. I have a child and if my Fiance now ever did that I would seriously have to sit down and truely think about it. A family works 'best' with both parents involved. If you come to the conclusion that you can't trust her or be with her then don't because if you stay agianst your will you will regret it in the end. You should let her know that you know the truth and ask her what are her main intentions for this relationship! Ask her how you are going to be able to trust her again. I couldn't watch my daughter grow up without a father, it would be too heartbreaking. Consider you options and both of you should seek counceling and have a heart to heart talk with each other.

Nah don't tell her what you know. If she asks again to come back, tell her, "Surely you jest."

Yes.