Should I be worried about my boyfriend leaving me?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years. During most of that, we have had a good relationship, but it has not led to marriage, yet. He does not seem to have been interested in marriage, but just because of his idealogy. I am 33, he is 35. 9 months ago, he got a wonderful job offer in Italy, and decided to try it out. He has been doing 3 months there, three months here. He really likes it there, and I can tell he wants to move there permanently. Problem is, I am a lawyer and cannot practice law in Italy without 4 more years of training. we had spoken of having a child together, if I move there, but I don;'t want to move there permanently. He recently got back, and I happened to glance at his email and see that he had several from a girl there. I took an opportunity to read them; they are very friendly--about 1 email/day--and I am pretty sure there is no actual relaitonship there, but there is obviously mutual interest and a solid friendship in the works. Should I be worried?

No, you should not be worried. If someone is moving on and you are not in the plans you can not force it to work no matter how hard you try. He doesn't have you in the plans or he would be making arrangements on what the 2 of you are going to do about your job, etc.. Accept what is going on. Move forward and start looking at other men. Sounds like you have an awful lot to offer someone. Your smart, committed, and have a stable job. Remember when you try to make things work and the other person doesn't want it, they loose respect for you. Who wants to be with someone they don't respect? But when you take control of your life and see someone doing something that doesn't include you, and you move on. They notice. That will make him think. Update your hair, makeup, get in shape, and start looking.

If I was in your shoes, yes I would be worried. However, if the e-mails we're friendly like you say and you trust him, maybe there isnt anything to worry about. Sounds like the distance seperating each others hearts though isnt making them grow fonder. If you want to save the relationship and take a risk, move with him. If your career is more important to you, stay. What is meant to be will be. Good luck!

Don't get worried now when you understand what the reality is.
Let the problem arise(hopefully, it doesn't), then you think of sorting it out.I think, you remain a little alert and just observe(silently).You surely can do that , a lawyer after all !

U should talk to him over this...... i mean well u kno him from quite a long period , so u obviously kno him more...............

So i'm pretty sure u'll mk a good decision ur self, coz u kno him well........