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Fiance moved out of his parents house and they were crying a lot. Don't understand such strong sentiments.. |
My fiance moved out of his parents house today and moved to another country (from India to France). I talked to them right now and they were crying and were missing him a lot. He lived with them for 24 years. I will move in with him after I graduate (I'm in US right now). While I am thrilled that he will be independent now and achieve his own identity, his parents are just so sad. They are happy that he got a nice job and has vice president position at a young age, but they were all crying a LOT! Can someone tell me if this is alright? I just don't understand the sentiments.Me n him have had a long distance relationship for 2.5 years. I met him last year for 2 months. i don't think I cried this much when I came back to US.Please help me understand, thanks! Unfortunately in the US, family values aren't held in high regard. I've known many people whose family doesn't care at all about one another. I'm close to my family, but not so close that they or I cried when I moved out. His family is from another country where tradition and family value and honor is at the top of the list, and it may be much harder for them to accept. Also consider the fact that he moved not just down the street or the next town over, but he moved to an entirely different country. That's tough for any parent I suppose. If he is an only child, it would make things especially hard for his parents because they are use to having someone need them, and now their son doesn't need to be there any more. When you talk to them, just console them any way you can and encourage your fiance to do the same. Eventually, they'll get use to the idea of him being gone from home as long as they know they can still talk to him. You've had a relationship with him for 2.5 years and cried a bit. They've had a relationship with him for 24 years, they're going to cry alot! Either they're dramatic people or they really can't handle him flying the coop. Personally I would be leery to have them for inlaws. Have a baby, care for him and raise him for 24 years, then let him go. You will then know and understand what it feels like. Other then that there is no way you are going to understand. Our son moved from the east coast of the United States to the west coast about four years ago for a good job as well. As parents, we miss him more than I can say. In theory, we agree that a child has every right to grow up and go out in the world and live and work wherever they choose to. But in reality, for a parent, it's an unbearable loss. We had hoped to be a part of his adult life. We wanted to be close to him and his eventual wife, and we also wanted to be a part of any children they may have which would be our grandchildren. Instead, due to finances and some other problems, we are lucky to see our son more than once a year. Believe me, it's SO heartbreaking. I totally understand your fiance's parents and the loss and grief they are experiencing. Maybe they are very close to their son. Is he the only child? That could be why. Typical case of Empty Nest Syndrome. |
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