Abortion Question?

I have always been anti-abortion from my religious beliefs.. but I need advice

I am 19. 20 in December.
If I keep it my partner will do a runner and I'll be alone. I dont have a cent to my name nor a job or my own place at the moment. I'm not in the right place at the moment and I dont know how I'll manage it alone...
I am exploring all options now Im looking at Abortion though im still undecided.
I see that the abortion pill is not legal in australia? I could maybe do this... but the vacuum thing? Seems so traumatic. The only way I could is under general anesthetic. So im out of it the whole time.
I was just wanting to know from people how the process is. How traumatic and if anyones had general anesthetic.
Just any imput or experiences please...

I'm 6 weeks in a couple days...

If your partner is going to "do a runner" if you keep HIS child, you best get rid of him now! What kind of a spineless, irresponsible 'man' is he? At least you have seen his true colours. I have no respect for anyone who threatens to leave the one they supposedly love as soon as life gets a little tough. I am not anti abortion but I do know it is not a decision to make lightly and it can effect your entire life. Things might seem really grim now but try to seek help. Go to a doctor and tell him what you are going through, he could refer you to the local community health centre to see a social worker who might help find you somewhere to live, tell you what kind of a pension the government will provide you with. Maybe you could stay with family or friends till you get on your feet. My cousin came to stay with me for a year when her 'Loser' left her pregnant and alone, and now she's a successful teacher with a two lovely children. You can talk to local ministers (don;t have to be religious). There is help out there if you look for it. You can be strong and independent making your own decisions with the assistance of what is available to all. Don't let some weak loser make this decision for you.

What you want from us? We are not doctors.

But then again most abortions in teens are because they have rushed sex because they dont want to be virgins anymore and wind with a baby because they no nothing about intercourse. Too bad your one olf them. Deal with it.

Why didn't you use birth control.... Your not very smart...... No money not job....... now you want to have an abortion because your a fool.... Do use all a favor.... Just go do it ... since with your stupidity.... That child is going to have a horrible life since you can't handle responsibilities and get your priorities straight

don't do it. You'll regret this for the rest of your life. It is so cruel for people to kill children.

The experience is all dependent on how mentally ready you are for that decision. It works only if you know that it is okay with your own self. It was not traumatic for me because I knew it was the right thing to do at the time for me. I do not regret it. But make sure you are ready, because you might regret it later.

you should post in the medical section.

you should not be having sex with a man who will do a runner.

have you considered adoption?

Anesthetics are nothing. I'm only 14 but went through brain cancer 3 times meaning lots of surgeries, meaning lots of anesthetics. Ur skin feels a little prickly and then ur out! If you take gas anesthetics, you cough a little bit and ur out! its easy. Done it like 30 times.

well you cant abort after 3 months so hurry and decide. I would advise adoption, because even though you cant keep it, there are people who cant have a child and you would ansswer their prayers to give them a newborn!

Religion is the place for the unexplained. But we can explain pregnancy.

A 6-week-old fetus is nothing more than a bunch of randomly organized cells. It doesn't feel or think. It has no characteristics of life. We know this for a certain fact. Abortion is NOT murder, and such an argument should not cause you to ruin your life by keeping it.

General anesthesia does carry risks, but if you're a generally healthy person, those risks are quite small. Most people experienec minimual problems with anesthesia. I was put under once myself (not for abortion, though), and I had no problems at all.

Abortion IS surgery, so you may want a day or 2 to take it easy. All the normal side effects and discomforts should be thoroughly explained to you by your doctor, but they are mostly minor.

Abortion is a perfectly good choice for someone in your position. You can't support a child. Do you really want to bring a human being into the world that you can't support? That's not fair to you or to the theoretical child.

I am personally not a huge fan of putting a child up for adoption if you can help it. A lot of them get bounced around foster homes, or wind up in abusive families. My half-sister was put up for adoption and she had a really bad childhood.

You've got your whole life ahead of you. Please think carefully about this.

You think its the safe way out and you'll prob deal with it, but you will never be able to completely get over the fact that you had an abortion..that you killed a living soul. Its not worth it. Its gonna be hard to stick with YOUR baby, but its the best thing to do..and you know it. Hard, but right. And YOU can make the right choice.

your obviously not ready to raise or care for this child so bringing a child into the world where they will not be nurtured or cared for is cruel. if you really don't feel ready then yes abortion is an option (sorry never had 1 so cant explain but i doubt they are pleasant) but if you feel you can do this have the baby and give it up for adoption... there are so many people out there who cant have children. i dont think you should make this decision based on your bf, doesnt sound like he cares much about you if he is making you do this alone and hes not man enough to step in and own up to what has happened is half his problem. make it on how you feel about the baby. also after this is over PLEASE go to a general practioner they can issue you the pill and it isnt that expensive and stop problems like this. so many unwanted children out there. dont help raising children in broken homes where they are in danger

It's not traumatic, physically. You're making a wise and informed decision. I speak as a single mother and as someone who's had a procedure. It's very quick, less than 5 minutes and the longest part is the wait in the lobby before you are called. You won't need general.

Having an abortion is a very personal issue regarding the rights and wrongs of it.

If you have an abortion, in a legal abortion clinic, you'll be given couselling both pre and post op. You can choose to have a pre-operation sedative and most of the operation you won't remember afterwards. The operation itself it quite simple and will involve a minimal amount of pain although you may feel a little disomfort like period pain afterwards.

The best time to have an abortion is between 8 and 10 weeks.

I expect a lot of thumbs down from do-gooders from my response but I'm just answering the question.

When I got pregnant unexpectedly, I was a few months younger than you. I had come from a very religious background, and was terrified of disappointing my family. I was a Sunday School teacher! I almost went through with the abortion. The boyfriend promised to pay for it, and threatened to leave if I didn't. But I knew that if I did this now, what would I ever tell my future children? That they were only there because it was a more convenient time?
So, I had the baby. He left, signing away all parental rights.
I considered adoption, but my family was a lot more supportive than I had EVER imagined they could be. It is difficult being a single parent, but it is SOOO worth it. When I hold my son, I can't imagine him not in my life. He is 4 now, and the thought that 4 and 1/2 years ago I almost killed him because I was scared just blows me away.
If you can't keep this baby, then let someone who can't have one take him or her. Men may come and go, but a child is something you will never regret. If you aren't ready for that responsibility, then please give that gift to someone else.