No commitment. Accused of cheating. Does this mean I can?

Only Boyfriend of two and a half years who is in Asia for three months on business asked me when I am going to visit.
Five minutes later he accused me of cheating. This is because he found evidence of correspondence with a guy on facebook that I like . I told him I wasn't going to act on my feelings unless I found out he was seeing someone else. He's said repeatedly that he has no desire to date others. With him so far away- there is no telling.

I love my boyfriend very much but he refuses to commit, i haven't met his parents and have only met 4 of his friends. He's refused to meet mine bc they are young (im 22, he's 38)

I am staying in his apartment while he is gone because it is nicer than mine and close to my job but without him here- I have been lonely and sometimes wish I didn't miss him so much as he still hasn't committed. How can I stop missing him? He has been pretty neglectful. Is it so wrong to cheat since he is accusing me anyway?

Most times when men accuse women of cheating, it's because they are cheating themselves. Since he has yet to commit to you and it's something that is on your mind you need to put all of that out on the table with him. Tell him how you feel about that and ask him what he wants to do. It's not fair of him to keep you at a distance and then act as if you should stay loyal to him. You have been together long enough that commitment should be established. After you put everything on the table, all relevant issues should be resolved one way or another. I hope everything works out to your satisfaction.

Yes it is wrong, do not cheat on your boyfriend. If he keeps accusing you though, you should probably end the relationship.