Im depressed and pregnant, what is wrong?

I am two months pregnant and very depressed. I wake up every morning feeling so tired and sore. I quit my job because it started at 7:30 and was an hour bus ride away. I was a hotel housekeeper and I had trouble waking up so early and doing exhausting work.

Housekeeping is the only field I am experienced in but I feel too weak to do it. I am depressed and cry a lot. I don't know what to do except look for another job but I can't find any. I want to rest all day and I throw up every morning. I used to have so much energy and clean my house every day but I haven't cleaned for a long time and I'm ashamed. It's almost as if I am depressed. I haven't told my Mom Im pregnant because she will FREAK OUT on me.

I do suffer from depression but it went away for a long time. I think the pregnancy made it worse, I don't have enough energy to excersize and I just quit smoking too. I am such a mess I don't know what I will do, please only reply if you are serious and no nasty messages.

Och hon, no wonder you are depressed! Throwing up a lot, hard job, giving up smoking - well done!!!!! The sickness passes soon, but I think you need a big hug so I am sending one your way : )))) I have 4 children.

Tell your mom though as you could do without the added stress. She may actually be delighted. Please take gentle care of you and your baby to be : )))))) Sending more hugs and best wishes : ))

It's normal, a change in hormones! Talk to you OB Dr. about it please.

Do you know that smoking is one of the hardest addictions to conquer? Good for you for quitting! It sounds like you're not as much of a mess as you think you are.
I think you do need some support. You're life style and your body are going through a lot of changes. I suspect that not telling your mom is adding to your stress. You may be right about her freaking out (although often depression will cause us to imagine that things will be a lot worse than they actually end up being). But I have a feeling that your mom is going to find out sooner or later and it may be best if you tell her. By not telling her you are not getting any support from her either. If you can't talk to your mom, is there someone else that you can talk to about how you've been feeling?
You're going to get through this! You sound like a very strong person. I will pray for you!

try your best to find a way to quit your job. I think thats to much pressure for a pregnant woman to have to go through. go to a doctor and get a note written and then go and see social services. I got really sick with my pregnancy and was not near able to work as well as deal with the fatique and sickness of pregnancy as well. goodluck

Even if your mother would "freak out", you should tell her. If she loves you, she will understand how you are feeling and can help you out by keeping you company and cleaning up some around the house.

Hey there. I think that it could just be hormones. You know how sometimes if you are pregnant, it can cause changes in behavior, and mood. If its bothering you, it may cause you to do stuff that wouldnt be good for you or your baby. Alot of depression can lead to drug use or alcoholism, not that I think you would begin that. Alot of women go through depression.... and right now things are just tough. You quit your job and your not the real you. Thats what depression does for you. Try hanging in there, writing, listening to music, relax and do something that you can at least enjoy a little. Congrats on quitting the smoking as well. If things dont get better, for the health of both of you and baby maybe you should go to a doc. I know it might be pretty hard now because your jobless, and I dont know how your relationship with your mom is, but maybe you can ask to borrow some? Tell her its for the doctor. They might put you on some antidepressants or check your blood to figure out why you are feeling this way. Maybe they will even give you free professional samples for a few weeks. As far as the fatigue and not wanting to do anything, thats also linked with depression and pregnancy both. But please, just take my advice, I think it will help! If you want you can even email me if it will make you feel better. I hope this helped and good luck! :)

You're doing so fantastically well - giving up smoking and managing your pregnancy nausea. The tension with your mother must be agonising. Trying to keep such a secret is enough to depress anyone, but when you're throwing up and have recently given up smoking, the low feeling is going to be magnified. It sounds a bit as if you don't have a partner around, either.

My prescription for you is - find some support. This might be through friends, your doctor, counselling, any groups in your area for pregnant women etc etc. Try to make it real people, not online, if possible. I don't think you're a mess at all, though I understand why you feel like that - it's very difficult to see the world as a bright place when things are as they are with you. But it CAN change, and probably will change quite soon as the hormones settle down and you find some support.