Sister-In-Law insists we stay in expensive hotel when getting together. Am I wrong?

My family lives about 400 miles away from my wife's sister's family. Financially, they are doing very well. We started getting together around Christmas and meeting half way between our homes. They have older children and have taken a liking to a hotel that costs $170 - $250 a room and has a big indoor water park. We have small children and want to be able to keep an eye on them in a less chaotic swimming environment. There are some very nice hotels with indoor pools and water slides that cost more around the $85-$110 range that work very well for our family. This has become a point of conflict for us. My sister-in-law thinks that we both have good jobs and should be able to afford the more expensive hotel. We've told her it's too expensive for us and doesn't meet our needs. They don't want to get together this year and cited our inflexibility as the reason. They also don't want us to stay in two different hotels and get together for dinners and such. Am I wrong?

No, they want what they want and you want what you want. You both have different aged kids and different needs. You want what's best for your family and most appropriate and so do they. Since it's only once a year and it's a vacation getaway, you should get to spend your money however you want and what will best benefit your family and make your kids the happiest. Don't feel bad or try to please them! They don't care about you or hurting your feelings. They say you are "inflexible"?! What about them? What did they do to try to be flexible? All they gave you was their choice or none!! Go with your family and have fun! Don't bow to other people's expectations, even if it's family. I stopped doing that long ago and am much happier for it. Good Luck!

No, your not wrong. How can she expect you to do something that is out of your means? SHE has the problem, it looks like she is just showing off too. Do your own thing with your family, u dont need people that will hurt you financially
If it doesn't work for you it's not wrong.
i dont think you are wrong at all. i would think the same way as you if i was in that situation
Rent you a motor home and let her stay where she wants.That way you can have a good vacation without conflict.....Really check the prices---it is fun.......they sound like DRAMA to me..
ask her to pay for the room and you will be more than happy to do any this she wants
you are right, this money could be used for more important things. but here is also something you can try, why not go to each others homes, you year you go to there's the next they come to yours. sure it is a long drive, but will save everyone money in the long run. and if your, sister in law does not want to do this. then she is the one that is being stubborn. stay home and enjoy the extra money your going to save.!!