Dating LD since moved to NY in Sep. He said he would marry me once he got a decent job, but I fear he has changed towards me during our separation. Going back to Tokyo to visit him next week. He says coming to the airport costs too much money and time, so he thinks he won't come. I begged him to see me the day I arrive. He was very worried and nervous that that would lead to him staying with me in the hotel, something he clearly does not want to do. His tone of voice, worry and attempt to avoid this situation indicated this. Yet when I forced the question, he says he still wants to go out with me, that it is not the case that he cant break up with me out of kindness, and he would not rather be friends. Had to push for him to have lunch with me, he says he wants to limit expenditure, he is saving up for something expensive and highclass. He will tell me what it is when he sees me, but I must not tell anyone about it. Whats going on and what should I do? Been intimate in past with him.
Maybe the something expensive and highclass is a ring for you? Maybe a move to USA for you. Do not push him. But if you are only going back to see him, and he is avoiding you I would rethink the trip at this time. Ask him if another time would be best. If you two have a unity and bonding relationship be point blank with him and ask if he is having second thoughts. Are you going to relocate back there if married or do you expect him to move here. If you expect him to move here, does he want too? Could this be whats on his mind. Open conversation is the only answer to this dilema for you. Good Luck
It sounds like your just convenient to have around when it is on his terms. The way it looks from my perspective is he doesn't want to be with you and he is having a hard time telling you. I think you should move on, it doesn't sound like he is willing to work at a long distance relationship. What kind of bf would leave his girlfriend at the airport or won't spend the night in the same hotel room? I think he has found someone else and is trying to avoid the two of you bumping into each other. Find someone else you can do better.
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