Are these the jobs of a woman in a marriage?

Make husband happy by cleaning the house every day. cook three meals a day. take care of the kids every needs. Is what i see are my jobs but this is my husbands ......(we have four kids im a stay at home mother) he wants the house spotless no toys anywhere but the kids rooms laundry folded put away before he comes home dinner ready hot and the kids already fed. pick his clothes for him to wear while he's taken a shower in the morning i also have to make sure he wakes up if i don't then it is my fault he is late for work not his. If there are toys in the livingroom then he calls the livingroom dirty. If the kids had just taken a bath and there is still some water on the floor with their clothes then the bathroom is "nasty" I have to wash the dishes by hand with soap and then put them in the dishwasher so that way they are very clean. if the kitchen counters do not shine or if he can't see himself in them then they are "filthy". this also goes for the windows mirrors and floors.

Sounds like you have a p1mp for a husband. Yes, since you are at home you should be doing SOME of the work at home. But all that and the hand washing of dishes are a bit much.

A good amount of this work can be deferred to the children. They should be responsible for picking up behind themselves, put their toys away.

Both of you should be washing and ironing the clothes. Folding too (I personally don't fold clothes, but I do wash the majority of them and iron the majority of them. I help clean the house. I never relied on my wife to wake me in the morning (that's what an alarm clock is for).

In all cases, he too should contribute in some part in keeping the house and children in order.

So what's your problem?
Perhaps you should have thought about his habits and gotten to know him better before you married him.
Reading your question helped me with my English. It was like reading a book. I did not see a question to answer, but jobs in marriage.
It sounds like your married to a dictator.
If you have this much of a problem with it, why don't you talk to him about it? No one should be miserable.
If he works and brings home the money then he can expect this. His demeanor is not appropriate. I suggest you reading the book Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus and then offering it to him.