Can't get hard when I want to?

I dont know what really is going on when I kiss my girlfriend finger her grab her *** and so on I can get really hard but after I stop I can only stay hard for 30 cs or so and then goes to half mass or ill be hard and she will try to give me a ******** or hand job and ill go dead I am only 18 so I dont really know why this is happening is there something that I could get my hands on that would help this maybe from a local store its becoming a big prob I am very much in love with my girl friend and in to her and I am far far away from gay so is there any tips to staying up or pills that are easy to get a hold of to help that are homeopathic? and one last thing how do I reply to your posts?

well, it could be something that pills could help, but, if it is something psychological, all the pills in the world won't fix it.. Human sexual response is a very intricate process. There are many counselors who might be able to help, but, it could be something physiological. It is most important for your partner and you to understand that it is neither of your faults. There are so very many people out there who have a difficult time getting or staying erect, but many people don't know this because we are so saturated with what we see on television. Trust me, this is not so unusual. There are generally things people can do. I would talk to a doctor first before randomly popping pills people suggest from Yahoo, because you could actually end up damaging your body forever, including any chances you have of resolving your erectile difficulties. A doctor might be able to discern whether it is physical help you need in the way of medicine, or psychological assistance from a counselor.

Open and honest, non defensive and considerate communication between partners is what I would encourage with great emphasis.

Good luck!

my thoughts are with you
(someone who can identify with your experience from personal experience)

-Gabriel

PS Jackie isn't a doctor, and it doesn't sound like Jackie has ever studied this stuff in depth. I had to do some research when I myself was experiencing arousal/response difficulties. Sex with another woman is not the issue. Again, I must stress, it is not your or your partner's fault. I would consult a doctor or counselor first, all the while communicating with your partner.

Also, a book i would suggest is linked below, read it with your partner, i did with my former partner ^_^ it did help Source(s): http://www.amazon.com/psychology-today-h...

i m not a doctor, so u don't need to reply on my post, but i know 100% that what u re experiencing isn't normal, u can't treat it from a local store shelf medicines by itself, u have to go to a doctor. first u go to average doctor and he/she will decide what to do next. maybe it is pshychological, maybe it is smth because of your health matter. do u work out a lot? do u smoke, drink? are u stressed at school? and the last thing - before u go to a doctor u might just try having sex with some other woman., whatever woman, just see whether u will still have the same problem. but in any case - go to doctor or talk with your parents. they will always wish u best and help u. good luck
yo dude...I'm not a doctor but it is never good to self-medicate, I always tell this to my patients.. (by the way...I'm a male nurse). Never...never..never self-medicate (so now I'm telling it to you).. You know what, based on your story...it is not something that a pill can fix...it may be due to stress at school or somewhat of psychological origin. Be cool and be more relaxed (tell her also about this) when you decide to do it with your girlfriend. Don't try to be the biggest man for her...it is a source of anxiety when you try to be one...so the effect is your level of anxiety goes up, making it flaccid....Be cool...you are still young..don't ever think of viagra or any similar pills....because you don't have erectile disorder (impotence)..you just have anxiety...
stop this is not good at all. sex is meant for marriage.