My boyfriend and I had sex for first time but neither of us orgasmed. Is this normal?

My boyfriend and I were both virgins and we had sex for the first time recently. We tried the missionary position and he was penetrating me for awhile (about 5 minutes-10 minutes) but neither of us could orgasm. So we tried it again with me on top for awhile but we both still didn't orgasm. I know its normal for a girl to not orgasm the first time she has sex but isn't it alot easier for a guy to achieve orgasm his first time? Is it normal he didn't orgasm his first time? I also can't get him off with a hand job either. Is there something wrong with him? Are we doing something wrong?

First of all, many women never orgasm from intercourse alone, because they need direct stimulation of the clitoris. So until you have enough experience to be able to try a variety of positions, don't worry about it as long as he pleases you in some way.

As for him, he is probably nervous. He might have been worried about hurting you, instead of letting go and enjoying himself. If you are close enough to have sex, then you should be able to communicate with each other, so you need to ask him what the problem is. If you are young, he might be afraid of getting caught. If he comes from a religious upbringing, then he might have conflicting feelings about whether he is doing the right thing. But it is most likely something psychological that is holding him back.

get married and the "o" will come quicker than you thought possible.
Too nervous
too much attention on the sex

Try foreplay & appreciate each other on a psychological level. Im sure things will get better. Just remember that if you both dont need the sex, dont force yourself to have any.
No there is nothing wrong but you did not say whether you still had an intact hymen. once it is ruptured usually there is blood, pain to both because penetration is not easy. The feel of blood and sight of it switches off the urge to reach an orgasm. The boyfriend could have had fear of making you pregnant. You might not have had enough lubrication which hurts the glans.
Hi,

Do not worry this happens when both of you do first time .This is very good that you are worried about your and his satisfaction .
In sex there are two things
1. Fore play
2. Intercourse.

Bothof you can enjoy fore play maximum if you/she knows thier G-Spots.By stimulating the G-spots you both will gets the maximum enjoyment. Which helps to get Orgasm in intercourse.
During the intercourse generally man care for his orgasm (Ejaculation) which give negative feeling to woman. Ideal thing is both should get orgasm same time which will give maximum satisfaction to both of you.

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Enjoy Life

Dr.Mojo
Medical Expert
the first time is never really that great, both people are usualy nervous and not used to one another... it'll get better