21 yrs old & my mom is flipping out crying!!!! (because i want to move) HELP PLEASE!!!?

i'm going to be 22yrs old in Feb and i'been going to school fulltime . I live at home with my mom, a dad thats never here for us and my 26yr old sis w/her son and her b/f .(my sis got pregnant at 17 and didnt graduate H.S or go to college.) i just got my A.A & A.S degree and i also just tranfered to a CAl State. I have a wonderful b/f who supports me emotionally & is loving and encourages me to keep on fifnsihing school.
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i JUST got a job offer and it 's a fulltime job w/ benifts something i've never had as a child ,and i plant on attending a diffrent school to be closer to work. I want to move so i can be closer to work & school. I will continue to go to school ,but partime and work fulltime. My mom is having a hard time crying and she says i'm throwing my life away by moving in w/someone . she doubts in me and it really hurts! She jsut wants me to finish school first ,& thinks i wont finish if i move out.

i love my mom ,but i just dont know what to do anymore. thanks for all yur support!

Well i think you and your mother need to have a really long talk,i would just say mom it's not that i dont love you just right now i think it is the best thing for me and for my future. Tell her its not like you are going away forever and never comming back. lol <well dont laugh lol> Tell her that school is more important but you want to be closer to where you work and assure her that you wont drop out of school,that <if you dont mind me saying> that you aren't like your sister and throwing away education to have a baby or be with a boy. Not that im trying to put down your sister or anything,sorry if its not put into the right terms. Tell your mom you will be back to vist and you she can call you WHENEVER she wants as long as its not in class. lol That always help,but explain to you mom that it may feel like you guys will you know drift farther apart but aaure that things will be normal,you just wants whats best for you and your future.Good Luck hope i helped

It isn't her life. Whether she's right or wrong, time will reveal. In the mean time you have to do what you think is right for you. Good Luck.

Awww, who are you moving in with? you said she thinks your throwing your life away by moving in with someone? If your moving out FOR your job and schooling then why on earth would she think this? You need to sit her down and tell her that you are doing it for the right reasons and that you love her and are just trying to better yourself. You can't do much more, she either understands or she'll just have to except it with bitterness. How old is your mother? Follow your dreams hunni, we only get one life, I think it's great, you seem like you've got a good head on your shoulders and, no offense, aren't following in your sister's footsteps. Children seem attractive at the time, but when your struggling and have no freedom it's a big regret if your as young as that. You have a loving boyfriend, a prosperious future and a thoughtful mother it would seem. Just speak to her hun.

The moving in with the bf would bother me if you were my daughter but otherwise you are a grown woman and it is time you moved out.

hey there here my opinion she may be afraid of being alone for she has always had you there for feeling of security and she may need to know you will always be there for her.

maybe she didnt fulfill her dreams of careers and she didnt reach her goals in life. like me i had to work to support my kids and i am in my 40s and going back to school to reach my goals i had set in my life

just set down and have a heart to heart talk with her just try reassure her you are going to finish school and you need her support geeting through this and you love her with all your heart but you have to get on with your life

i dont think it is much as you not finishing school that is probably her excuse i feel it made be she is in fear of being alone when a mother kids move out the mother going through the empty nest sydrome she has cared for you all you life and she will be lost within herself for she will be alone it is a mother worst fear for they dont want that

you need to do what you need to do she will be fine she will go through a time of adjustment how i know all this is be cuz i have one child left at home and i dont know how i will handle it for he is my strong kid who keeps me strong and you may be hers and she scared for you leave she will be ok go for your life with your b/f and careers and most all your schooling make her proud of you good luck i hope i have helped you

Ask her if she wants a Kleenex and walk away. This is her issue not yours and don't take ownership of it. You are doing the right thing living your life. Your mom just wants to control you.