I have been friends with this person for a while, and oddly i still feel like i don't know them that well. In general, he very cold and distant and don't offer much details about himself. He is very hard to read as far as facial expression and tone of voice goes. He is kind of impassive and monotone...but he still seems to function in society as a new college grad. he goes out on the weekend drinking, and he has a really good finance job. I sometimes think that maybe he just dislikes me, but everytime i talk to him he is responsive and chats with me for a while (he doesn't blow me off or say he's too busy) I tell him a lot about myself, but I really would love to know about HIM. Sometimes when i talk to him, i feel like i am a nuisance only because i always initiate contact with him and i begin to doubt myself. I dont know where i stand with him, if i am a nuisance to him, or if he likes talking to me. I want to get him to open up. Does he like me or no? should i just give up?
He may have been hurt in previous friendships/relationships, and for that reason it might be hard for him to open up and put himself in a vulnerable position. I would suggest telling him how you feel, I'm in a similar situation, and if a friend feels like I'm being cold or distant, I would want them to tell me. |
