Why must everyone assume that because i want to marry my tunisian boyfriend that he is just after a passport?

He has many friends in uk that could get him contract of employment or similar. Some ppl can`t accept that 2 people can actually be very much in love. It makes me angry as ppl judge them all the same, This is so narrow minded &very shallow!

Not everyone did assume that he was after a passport. I answered your first question and My only concern was that you don't really know someone until you meet them and have a relationship face to face rather that via email. So please don't lump all of us into this statement

Bexause some of us older ones know exactly how the system works but hopefully yours is true love and I sincerely hope you do not learn by bitter experience, unfortunately it is the way things are perceived

I can't think of anything more shallow than an internet based relationship.

He probably does just want a passport.

as long as your both happy who cares what people say, good luck

i hope you are in the one per cent that marry for love
try telling your boy friend that you have to put the wedding off for two years and see how he loves you then.....

well, the thing is , no one is going to give him a passport for no reason, and he might use that to his advantage. no i aggree with u , cant judge someone coz theyre not british citizen, we all fall in love with the person not their problems.

Yes that must be awful - but peoplecan't be blamed for thinking it may be for getting a passport, as that has happened many times, and will happen again. Anyway, some people like to assume the worst, or at least think the worst is possible - maybe that's human nature.
Also, perhaps people do not understand about the depth of your love, even if you tell them about it, as they may not have expereienced it themselves, therefore can't recognise it in others.
The important thing is that you don't let their attitudes affect your relationship - good luck.

Totally agree. People are just like that. It is hard not to let it bother you but please don't let this ruin your relationship. If you want to marry and you both think it would make you happy, then just do it! Some people are just jealous of other people's happiness and do their best to destry it.

All the best for the future with your tunisian boyfriend.You are the only one that can determine your own future .If you love him and you know that he loves you it is between you two what ever happens.All the best.

Well stop telling us about him then. It's only important to you. I wish you well.

in many cases its true that they may be after a paqssport but it coululd also not be true. my dad who is a diplomat told me that guys from those poor countries are mosty likly after a passport an better life

Your earlier question said that you had never met him. You are traveling to his country with a plan to marry him. If you are really both in love, taking your time and protecting yourself won't change anything. Visit him and get to know him and his family. Then have him come and visit you.
When you have spend some time together and have worked out the details like where you will live and how you will support yourselves, get married.
You seem to be in too much of a hurry. Take your time and let your love grow.
Good Luck.

Not narrow minded and not shallow, just sensible. So you want to get married to him the first time you meet him? Where is your common sense? You can talk to people on the internet as much as you like, it means nothing. You're going to commit the rest of your life to somebody that you've not yet met? Maybe all the people on here suggesting that he's after a passport are just a lot wiser than you. And lets face it, if you came on here seeking advice on whether or not the majority of people thought it was normal to marry someone the first time you meet them shows that you are not even sure of it yourself. Think long and hard about your situation, because even though its all fine in a small percentage of similar situations, does not mean that its going to be a bed of roses for you.

people who assume these things are just trying to protect you and your best interests, because peple do things to be deceitful all of the time.

i sure hope things work out... you won't know what his true intentions are until you get to know him better, i'm sure.

take care and i wish you all good things!

because sometimes outsiders can get a more realistic view of the situation than the person who is in blinded in love,but sometimes people are wrong when they judge,and hopefully the people who judged your boyfriend are wrong

you can't stop the way people think, all you can do is prove them wrong by having a long and happy life together. who cares what they say, if you are confident its what you want then go for it!

good luck x

How can you be very much in love if you have not met?? How do you really know the sort of person he is?? You have not spent any real time with him..you dont know his habits. I dont know if he is after a passport but I dont think you have though this through at all. Sounds like you are living in a fantasy. Plus it seems like you are not sure hence why you have posted a question twice surrounding this 'marriage'

And just maybe his friends know him alot better than you think they do and know what he's capable of doing.

The Thing Is My Ex BoyFriend Was Ghanaian ( African ) And All People Were Saying Too Me Was ' Watch Him Aj,He Just Wants A Passport And That Makes Me So Angry Ok There Are Forgein People That Would Do That,But There Are Actual GENUINE People,People Need Too See This,I Loved Him Very Much,But Because Of Them People We Spilt After A Year Together This September.

Are you looking for agreement here? other wise what is the point of your question? If you were 100% sure of his motives why would you need to post such a question? and yes he is after a passport. You are not the first and won't be the last.

Is common that marriage between two people of different culture take place to give residency,but not impossible that it is love.. the hell with people say you need to proof nothing.. good luck.

British passport is not a window to heaven
and obviously Tunisia is full with beautiful girls,he is just after a better life,peace and settelement and these are enough for him to love you and to be faithful and grateful. you need to see him to find your reasons .the rest is matter of time

Calm down, you came and asked for help. People have their own histories that help them answer questions. you can't just assume that all people are being dumb just because they assume he wants a passport. or assume worse. they do that because overall, that IS the reason things like this happen, just because you believe your boyfriend is different doesn't mean you get to deny the truth that if he is, he's in extremely tiny minority of people who are actually in love and not after a passport or money, or worse. just chill, we're only trying to help. don't go off your rocker just because we don't personally know your boyfriend well enough to say that he's the one different guy, he's not our boyfriend, or our friend, there is no way we can know that sort of stuff.

I am only twenty two and I know he is using you.

ive been in the same situation, married 6 months ago to my lovely boyfriend. people can say what they want but you must watch how much you listen. they can break you down and make you doubt your partner. dont let them, have confidence and trust in your partner and it'll be fine.